Divorce Papers
When you go through the worst in a marriage, sometimes there is nothing you can do but cut your loses and move on. I have a friend who went through what can only be described as a nightmare. She was not abused, but that is one of the few positive things she can say about her marriage. She would not go back and do it differently because if she did she would not have her daughter. However, she has lived through the worst she could imagine, and now she is living her life without the loser she married. The one thing that is missing is the divorce papers.
It would be much simpler if she were not now a single mom of two. The man she wants to divorce has little to no money. Though he finally agrees to the divorce after a few years of trying to talk her out of it, he can’t seem to come up with his half of the money to finalize the end of their relationship. Divorce papers don’t seem to be something he cares about getting, and he is taking his time. She can’t afford to pay for the divorce on her own, so she is going to have to wait for her divorce papers for a little while longer.
I swear it’s like a game to him. He knows she needs the divorce papers to move on with her life, but he seems to stall at every turn. He is buying things like guitars and amplifiers, but he has yet to put a dime towards the divorce. It’s not even like it is a complicated divorce. They know how much it will cost, and he knows what he has to pay. It’s not a lot of money, but for some reason he doesn’t want her to have those divorce papers. He’s selfish. He wants her to himself, but he isn’t willing to give her the same thing. He’s playing a game with her and she knows it.
I have half a mind to pay for the divorce myself just so she can get those divorce papers and move on with her life. The guy she is divorcing is someone I have known my entire life and he has disappointed me more than I ever thought possible. Through everything that happened, he refused to take responsibility for what he was doing, and found away to make it the fault of everyone else, including me. I can’t stand the sight of him, and one of my fondest wishes is to see her standing with the divorce papers in her hand so that she can finally be free of him. It would be worth the price for sure.
Tuesday, April 1, 2008
Divorce Support
Divorce Support
The divorce rate in the US is very high, and this means there are a lot of people out there who are going through the pain of separation. Most people don’t know where to turn for help, and they don’t know they can find divorce support from both professionals as well as others who are going through the same thing. I have a friend who is about to divorce, and she has already joined an online site to help her through this trying time.
The site she found was meant just for divorce support. She has found others who know what she is going through, and they have helped her with legal and emotional advice. Some of these people have become dear friends to her, and she has even found someone she might want to share her future with. Because they are both looking for divorce support right now, they are not rushing into anything. They want to be sure they are free, clear, and definitely not on the rebound when they finally decide they can be together and have a healthy relationship.
You can find divorce support through professionals if you want. You can always find a mental health professional that specializes in marriage counseling as well as divorce support. They may have even helped you through your marriage counseling and they already know what your problems and issues may be. That may save you the visits needed for a professional to get to know you. They have a head start in knowing what you have been through, so they have a head start in helping you get back on your feet emotionally.
If you want to get divorce support online, make sure you don’t reveal too much about yourself on a website or message board. If you are going through a bad divorce, you don’t want your soon to be ex spouse to be able to find you if you are coming out of an abusive marriage. They may look for you on divorce support sites to see if they can find your new location. Also disguise your true name and identity just enough so that your spouse may not know it is you for sure. They may be able to use things you say there against you, though you should talk with the owner of the board or website before you post to find out what the laws are in regards to that.
The divorce rate in the US is very high, and this means there are a lot of people out there who are going through the pain of separation. Most people don’t know where to turn for help, and they don’t know they can find divorce support from both professionals as well as others who are going through the same thing. I have a friend who is about to divorce, and she has already joined an online site to help her through this trying time.
The site she found was meant just for divorce support. She has found others who know what she is going through, and they have helped her with legal and emotional advice. Some of these people have become dear friends to her, and she has even found someone she might want to share her future with. Because they are both looking for divorce support right now, they are not rushing into anything. They want to be sure they are free, clear, and definitely not on the rebound when they finally decide they can be together and have a healthy relationship.
You can find divorce support through professionals if you want. You can always find a mental health professional that specializes in marriage counseling as well as divorce support. They may have even helped you through your marriage counseling and they already know what your problems and issues may be. That may save you the visits needed for a professional to get to know you. They have a head start in knowing what you have been through, so they have a head start in helping you get back on your feet emotionally.
If you want to get divorce support online, make sure you don’t reveal too much about yourself on a website or message board. If you are going through a bad divorce, you don’t want your soon to be ex spouse to be able to find you if you are coming out of an abusive marriage. They may look for you on divorce support sites to see if they can find your new location. Also disguise your true name and identity just enough so that your spouse may not know it is you for sure. They may be able to use things you say there against you, though you should talk with the owner of the board or website before you post to find out what the laws are in regards to that.
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